There are men who have everything and won’t give you shit

Learn to recognize these men and RUN.

I’ve encountered these men a few times throughout my years of sugaring. It sucks.

One has kind of come back (or is trying) to come back. We met on SA but I soon came to find out, he just wanted a companion to wipe his tears to get over his last gf.

He got me into a really cool sport, but I had to keep telling him that I can’t spend these weekends with him if he doesn’t help me. I stayed way longer than I should.

We talked about the past and I brought this up to him. To which he replied, “I would have gotten you anything you sent me a link to…. I did get you things” (yeah some yoga pants and some boots… big whoop)

I asked if he wanted to hang out again to which he said yes since things have changed, the ex is gone etc.

SO I’m going to test the waters.

I sent him a link to a Dyson Airwrap. I sent that link 3 hours ago. Hasn’t replied. Thus, once again, he’s just full of shit.

Sometimes I can’t stop

I can be a horrible glutton for punishment sometimes. Sometimes what I have is never enough, especially when it comes to rich men.

I have my 8k allowance guy, and two other ones which equates to another 5k.

Well, an old relationship came back… who I met on the site but he never gave me anything but he did get me into an awesome sport. Well, I found out that he’s secretly a bitcoin billionaire and makes a TON of residuals from his software.

ON TOP OF THAT, I managed to flirt with Showoff SD… because I saw the private jet on his way to Mexico.. and caught his attention again…. <- I’m regretting that decision. But I just like knowing I can snag him over all his Barbie blonde girls lol it’s a conquest.

Honestly I think the inflation, war and everything becoming so expensive is freaking me out and I’m looking for any kind of financial security if shit hits the fan.

“I’m too sober for this”

Although I don’t recommend drinking while you’re with your SD, sometimes it helps when you need it most. I really enjoy my new whale, I love to talk to him and joke.

Intimacy? Eh. He looks great for his later 50s but his arms have that thin, crapy old man skin…. which kind of grosses me out. He doesn’t drink at all but doesn’t mind if I do. However, my best friend is sober and has been for 15+ years. Thus, I don’t tend to drink a lot around him. Unfortunately that same mindset kind of hit while I was with my new SD.

As we were getting hot and heavy, I realized, “Shit, I should have drank more.”

It’s even worse because this was our first time together as well and first time sex is never that good. You get to see what weird movements and quirks your SD has that probably made him a single man in the first place.

Ever had a guy move his hips in circles while he was inside you? Where in the Sam hell did you learn such a tactic? What are you trying to do? Butter up my sweet walls with that knife? Sheesh.

So either way, doesn’t last long (thank the heavens) but then mr. genius goes, “You know how we were talking about fantasies?”

…………

…..Yeah. Thinking, okay hopefully it’s like a costume play.

“I have this rape fantasy…” and then he goes on to tell me about one of his favorite porns that he thinks he funny where it’s rape of course and threatens this girl out naked of the house…..

Geeze….. out of ALL the fantasies a guy can have….. it had to be this one.

Doing some research, these fantasies are actually REALLY common amongst individuals.

In personal experience, the more wealthy…the weirder.

Snagged my Whale

He adores me. Hoping to invest this money HARD CORE into my life so I can finally exit. I’m ready to be a multimillionaire who travels the world at my free will. No men, just me.

Update on the Showoff Whale

I couldn’t snag him. I wish.

He’s addicted to drama and super Barbie blondes. Well, that’s just the opposite of me. I’m also sweet, kind and I communicate very effectively. Maybe I texted too much. ‍♀️

We had a fun few weeks, he invited me to Cabo with his two girls who just adored me. I honestly thought I had him. I satisfied all his needs, physically everything was great. I even made him nervous and self conscious. Lol

So, him spending a weekend with his ex doesn’t surprise me. He’s used to her, maybe isn’t intimidating for him, who knows.

If you give a guy everything he could ask for and he still leaves? Honey, it’s not you, I promise. Some guys just struggle internally. Sometimes your standards make them have to work to be a better man and they don’t want to abs it happens.

BUT one man’s she’s too good for me, isn’t another man’s “she’s everything I’m looking for”

Which totally happened later. Went on a date, we had an AMAZING time, he offered 8k a month. Uh, yes please. So… bye Mr. Showoff! Hello to my new whale and sponsor.

This DOSEN’T EXIST

Do you know how many of us, especially, especially men who are FED UP with these TikTok girls spewing this bullshit?

“I make 5-10k a month without sleeping with my sugar daddy…..:buy my course all I’ll show you how”

Oh. My. God.

Now in RARE instances have I actually seen this happen with someone I used to follow. She’s deactivated but still.

It doesn’t exist. I don’t know how much I have to preach this. They make money off your views and stupid courses that aren’t even real.

You might get short term, sure. But the long term, the real 5 figure monthly allowances COMES WITH SEX. Sorry dear.

I’m here, I promise

I miss tumblr days, unfortunately I scroll Reddit posts now. Some subreddits are good. Some are just horrid about SW and the bowl.

Life had been peachy. I’m about to get a WHALE of a daddy but he’s very public about his lifestyle and who he dates. Fine BUT the second I get posted, I know some fire is going to come about. With his exes… or mine.. I REALLY HOPE NOT.

I like the private guys. The secretly wealthy. Lol

However, the rewards are huge…. Worth the risk? Probably. I’ll let you guys know.

This is what happens when you stop paying when you go on a date

I saw this post on TikTok about a guy commented that a guy should always pay for the first date but a girl should expect to pay half…. And then I saw a comment “I’ll happily pay for the whole bill or half! It’s called respect”

I’m sorry, what? I felt so sorry for this girl because someone conditioned her that she, as a woman, should have to provide like a man should. HELL NO. It’s not called respect, it’s called a guy can play you because he doesn’t have to invest in you.

Honey, level up. I get spoiled by my new sponsor with a big allowance and gifts like this.

Girl… go to bed like the successful heaux that you are. That you don’t have a fuck boy, but a wealthy sponsor who deposits money in your account every week, buys you designer because he wants to, flys you first class, if he has work, he sends you out to do your favorite things then takes you out to exclusive dinners and constantly compliments everything everyone else over looked. You live peacefully, you have it made..

This is my life lately.

Do NOT work under your SD

On Reddit I saw many posts, including my own that asked if you could work under your SD.

Majority ruled a hard NO. Now I know why.

This SD has been my hardest because he is so different from me culturally. I love me some small Asian penis, however I realized I prefer a more Americanized one. He’s very authentic to his culture still. Totally okay I’m just not used to it.

He’s trying to put me in a position within his company that suits me both however, work me and personal me are two DIFFERENT people. Work me is overly gracious, kind, work for hours on end to get the job done etc. Personal me, is a sarcastic asshole with a bitchy attitude if you piss me off. Otherwise I’m still kind and funny.

My personality works differently though, I’m a chameleon. It changes with the environment and who I’m with. My SD is very stone walled, poker face, monotone… I’m surprised when I get a laugh. So naturally I’m more quiet and well, if he pisses me off, he gets the bitch… hangry. Lol

The point I’m trying to make here is that it’s hard to differentiate the working relationship and the personal relationship… even though I’ve had a conversation with him about it, he doesn’t understand…

Trying to dot my I’s and cross my T’s and keep my mouth shut…

The valet knows you’re a working girl

Last night I ended up going to a ritzy hotel in my area because a friend of mine was playing for a private party until 9. Desperate to socialize with him, I decided to go to the outside bar and wait. There’s a conference full of men also outside with another band.

I was a little reluctant because I’m the only 20 something , pretty girl, sitting alone at a bar. After about 20 minutes I could see this group of guys eyeing me. I knew they were making bets to try and talking to me. After another 20 minutes, liquid courage hits and one of them does.

The group of guys were from NY/Jersey celebrating the birthday of the guy who came up to me. Boy, we’re they in for it with me. Lol Little did they know I can speak their accent better than they can and give them shit like a man. They were all in their 40s and early 50s and all married…. Of course. Remember when I told you cheating was the norm here? If your man travels to my city… beware.

Regardless the drinks and conversation were flowing but one of them was convinced I was free-styling. I laughed because obviously he’s not completely wrong but denied all night because I was there truly for my friend, not them.

The night ends, my friend saves me and we get talking to the valet. I tip really well and tell him the laughs of the evening. This guy tells me stories of him knowing the working girls who frequent; they’ll go as far as parking your car up front so you can get away easily and how guys will call down after their watch is stolen

Moral of the story : Tip anyone well enough and you can get away with anything

If you showed your texts, how many men would be considered cheaters?… all of them.

Dear fucking Cheesus…. I swear to the heaven above..

I CANNOT deal with the men where ***I’m from*** ALL of them cheat, ALL OF THEM have a side bitch or will fuck around and get back together with their ex in a matter of days.

This is why in the end, GET YOUR BAG. That’s all that matters.

I was talking to a friend of mine but he was texting a mushy… he had just broken up with his girl “she’s a good girl but not for me”

“I was so unhappy” “good morning beautiful, can’t wait to hang out”

Nope. They’re back together. Lol imagine that.

Another guy, “me and my girl broke up… but don’t repeat that to anyone….. I think you’re so hot I’ve wanted to get with you forever” still posts about her on IG.

My recent POTSD?! His “ex” hasn’t even moved out of the house yet.

****Again, clarifying where I’m from. West coast. This is the norm here.

Don’t let an SD in your house

I’m on a plane back home and this pilot guy I saw came to mind. Total liar about who he was, scammer.. the whole 9.

My mistake is that I let this guy IN TO MY HOUSE.

Your house/apartment/ wherever you stay is YOUR sanctuary. This isn’t for memories of some jackass who screwed you over. Otherwise, you’ll forever have an imprinted image of this person in your house. Your house is no longer safe but filled with bad memories of these men.

Also, for safety reasons please keep these guys away. Don’t let them help you move or come over and do something… just trust me on this one.

Private Jet

Sorry, I realized I eluded to this experience without telling you about it later.

Not too long ago I made a stupid decision to have a trip with a POTSD and his friends just so I could fly private for the first time. It was only overnight, how bad could it be?

Regardless I was nervously excited. My biggest concern was that this was a smaller plane to which my nausea and I.. would just about die.

Pros :

No TSA

No waiting to board a plane - drive right up and get on

Good food

Squishy seats

Cons

Small (6 passenger plane.. definitely recommended flying a bigger one)

Turbulence SUCKED…

Plane wasn’t big enough for flight attendants

You might have to sit backwards..

Regardless, I wasn’t overly impressed with private but I’ve heard bigger planes make ALL the difference

I’ve started to really hate sex

So much that I’m almost avoiding it as an SB, even if I like my SD. I don’t crave it, I cringe knowing they want it. I’m the type of person who can only take once a day… if that. Past trauma just causes tightness and pain down there.

I get annoyed when I set boundaries and they gaslight me.”Oh, cmon, it doesn’t hurt. You’re not sore”

Meanwhile this guy was circling his hips inside me stretching my vagina way out of capacity… wtf. Who taught guys this shit?!

Moral of the story : If you can afford to take a break, do so. This life can be so draining on your physical and mental health. Get a boyfriend - seriously. Someone you can have an emotional connection and enjoy sex.

Boundaries We Must Set In Relationships…

“Boundaries are such an important topic because they are one of the important pillars of self-love.”

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Homemaker or a Career Woman? Pros and Cons

This post was based on a question I received on my thoughts on stay-at-home moms & wives.Click here to read.

Ladies, it is essentialto know the lifestyle you want to live. If your main priority is to take care of your kids and enjoy leisure time. Then, you may prefer to be a stay-at-parent. If being a boss babe and having independence is important to you, you may prefer being an entrepreneur or having a career.

Perks of being a Career Woman

Financial Independence:

• When you make your own money, YOUcall the shots! If financial independence is important to you and gives you peace of mind a career might be for you.
• You may like the status and recognition that comes with earning your own money.

Larger social pool:

• Most stay-at-home moms hang out with their families and other stay-at-home moms. If you enjoy socializing in corporate functions a career is a better option.
• When you have a career that takes you places and into settings with a variety of people, it can be more rewarding for your career or business.

Purpose beyond family life:

• Although being a mother and wife is rewarding, some may want a life surpassing home.
• If you feel your calling is beyond being a mother and wife a career you are passionate about you fulfill that need.
• You don’t want to look back and wish you did more. Find a life that is worth living, and that includes working.. so be it.

Perks of being a Homemaker

You never miss a moment:

• When you stay at home you can be there for every moment of your kid’s childhood.
• From ballet practice to graduations to prom. You won’t miss a beat! (My mom was a stay-at-home mom for 15 years. she was there for my sibling through everything.)

Rest in your femininity:

• Feminine energy is receptive and less active than masculine energy. When you stay home and are able to live more leisurely you can rest in your femininity.
• Allows your partner to work hard for you and your family while you focus on making the house a home.

Freedom (more or less):

• You can spend the day as you wish with no other obligation than taking care of the kids, possibly making meals and maintaining the home.
• Attending meetups with other stay-at-home moms.
• picking up a profitable hobby like blogging or painting.

Disclaimer: You can be a successful ambitious woman and a stay-at-home mom, but remember: it can be very difficult to do it all at once! This can eventually lead to burnout.

My top 5 favourite Level Up Affirmations

Affirmation #1: I am uniquely created with a purpose.

You being here was not an accident. You living the life you live and coming into contact with the people you’ve met has not been an accident. Don’t go wasting it all and aimlessly moving about life. Every step you take has a purpose. You have a purpose. So live on purpose!

Affirmation #2: It is okay to say no.

It is okay to say no so that you can say yes to yourself.Yes to protect your mental space. Protect your energy. Say yes to more rest. Say yes to doing more of what you love. Spend 2022 saying yes to you more.

Affirmation #3: I am capable & I am competent.

I am challenging myself to focus less on the information or skills I may not have yet and put my energy into what I do have and can provide. Most importantly, I remember that I am capable of digesting information and developing the needed skills along the way.

How selfish is it to think that the gifts and talents you have are for you? What good is having gifts if you don’t use them and share them from time to time? You like writing and you have a story to tell but do you think you’ll just keep it all to yourself? Someone out there needs to see or hear what you have to share.

How selfish is it to think that the gifts and talents you have are for you? What good is having gifts if you don’t use them and share them from time to time? You like writing and you have a story to tell but do you think you’ll just keep it all to yourself? Someone out there needs to see or hear what you have to share.

You never know how sharing your light can significantly impact another life. God gave you these gifts and you’re going to keep them to yourself? Don’t be stingy with what the Universe/God gave you.

Affirmation #5: It may be scary, but anything is achievable.

If you are thinking about taking a leap of faith and betting on yourself, whether it’s going for that job promotion or starting that business, or moving out on your own, then go for it.

Don’t let the fear of the unknown scare you and stop you in your tracks. We spend a lot of time focusing on the fear of the “what-ifs” when we are thinking about making a change and that only leads to anxiety, procrastination, and lost time. You can never truly know what will happen until you have begun to move.

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5 Ways to Express Your Emotions in a Healthy Feminine Manner Pt 2

If you haven’t seen part 1 yet, CLICK HERE!

Here’s are 5 more ways to express your emotions in a healthy feminine manner.

Pamper yourself

Wash your hair, go shopping, treat yourself to a spa day. Whatever it is that helps you unwind and feel pampered do it! This isn’t a long-term solution to unresolved feelings it might be a quick fix to turn your day and mood around.

Invest in therapy

I highly encourage all women on their journey to better themselves to go to therapy.We are all the products of our childhood, and many of us have experienced trauma as children. It is your job to explore those feelings and get to the root of your issues. A therapist who has experience can help you with this!

Process your emotions

Rest and recovery should be a part of all processes. Take time to reflect on what triggered your emotional state. Dealing with your emotions is the key to healing.

Exercise

Regulating our emotions can be made easier through exercise. When we exercise, our body releases dopamine and endorphins that give us all types of good feelings of reward & pleasure. In addition to it being good for our long term health.

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