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Boundaries We Must Set In Relationships…

“Boundaries are such an important topic because they are one of the important pillars of self-love.”

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Homemaker or a Career Woman? Pros and Cons

This post was based on a question I received on my thoughts on stay-at-home moms & wives.Click here to read.

Ladies, it is essentialto know the lifestyle you want to live. If your main priority is to take care of your kids and enjoy leisure time. Then, you may prefer to be a stay-at-parent. If being a boss babe and having independence is important to you, you may prefer being an entrepreneur or having a career.

Perks of being a Career Woman

Financial Independence:

• When you make your own money, YOUcall the shots! If financial independence is important to you and gives you peace of mind a career might be for you.
• You may like the status and recognition that comes with earning your own money.

Larger social pool:

• Most stay-at-home moms hang out with their families and other stay-at-home moms. If you enjoy socializing in corporate functions a career is a better option.
• When you have a career that takes you places and into settings with a variety of people, it can be more rewarding for your career or business.

Purpose beyond family life:

• Although being a mother and wife is rewarding, some may want a life surpassing home.
• If you feel your calling is beyond being a mother and wife a career you are passionate about you fulfill that need.
• You don’t want to look back and wish you did more. Find a life that is worth living, and that includes working.. so be it.

Perks of being a Homemaker

You never miss a moment:

• When you stay at home you can be there for every moment of your kid’s childhood.
• From ballet practice to graduations to prom. You won’t miss a beat! (My mom was a stay-at-home mom for 15 years. she was there for my sibling through everything.)

Rest in your femininity:

• Feminine energy is receptive and less active than masculine energy. When you stay home and are able to live more leisurely you can rest in your femininity.
• Allows your partner to work hard for you and your family while you focus on making the house a home.

Freedom (more or less):

• You can spend the day as you wish with no other obligation than taking care of the kids, possibly making meals and maintaining the home.
• Attending meetups with other stay-at-home moms.
• picking up a profitable hobby like blogging or painting.

Disclaimer: You can be a successful ambitious woman and a stay-at-home mom, but remember: it can be very difficult to do it all at once! This can eventually lead to burnout.

My top 5 favourite Level Up Affirmations

Affirmation #1: I am uniquely created with a purpose.

You being here was not an accident. You living the life you live and coming into contact with the people you’ve met has not been an accident. Don’t go wasting it all and aimlessly moving about life. Every step you take has a purpose. You have a purpose. So live on purpose!

Affirmation #2: It is okay to say no.

It is okay to say no so that you can say yes to yourself.Yes to protect your mental space. Protect your energy. Say yes to more rest. Say yes to doing more of what you love. Spend 2022 saying yes to you more.

Affirmation #3: I am capable & I am competent.

I am challenging myself to focus less on the information or skills I may not have yet and put my energy into what I do have and can provide. Most importantly, I remember that I am capable of digesting information and developing the needed skills along the way.

How selfish is it to think that the gifts and talents you have are for you? What good is having gifts if you don’t use them and share them from time to time? You like writing and you have a story to tell but do you think you’ll just keep it all to yourself? Someone out there needs to see or hear what you have to share.

How selfish is it to think that the gifts and talents you have are for you? What good is having gifts if you don’t use them and share them from time to time? You like writing and you have a story to tell but do you think you’ll just keep it all to yourself? Someone out there needs to see or hear what you have to share.

You never know how sharing your light can significantly impact another life. God gave you these gifts and you’re going to keep them to yourself? Don’t be stingy with what the Universe/God gave you.

Affirmation #5: It may be scary, but anything is achievable.

If you are thinking about taking a leap of faith and betting on yourself, whether it’s going for that job promotion or starting that business, or moving out on your own, then go for it.

Don’t let the fear of the unknown scare you and stop you in your tracks. We spend a lot of time focusing on the fear of the “what-ifs” when we are thinking about making a change and that only leads to anxiety, procrastination, and lost time. You can never truly know what will happen until you have begun to move.

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Why you must Make Yourself a Priority

There is a lot of talk about self-care on this blog, but the truth is that self-care begins with prioritizing yourself. There are a lot of benefits to making yourself a priority. On the other hand, if you ignore your needs and put the needs of others first, many problems can arise.The consequence of putting others before yourself is people pleasing.

So Why You Need To Make Yourself A Priority?✨

If you truly want to love yourself and respect yourself, you must put yourself first. We can also influence how others treat us by how we treat ourselves. It is also important to carry yourself in a certain manner for people to treat you the same. Here are 4 ways that have helped me make myself a priority in my own life…

Create a weekly schedule

Make sure you take time for yourself! You can do anything you like, whether it is studying new things, hobbies, relaxation, crafts. Whatever your interests are, make clear time for them unapologetically. This is one of the ways you’ll begin to love yourself better since you’ll get to know yourself better.

If You Need Help, Ask!

In all this, remember to ask for help whenever necessary. Being your own priority doesn’t mean alienating yourself. Build a network of trusted and dependable friends, people you can be yourself around. Our guards are much more heightened when we’re surrounded by the wrong people and nobody needs that

Create Strong Boundaries!

Establishing boundaries will help you avoid situations you do not want to be in. The moment we do not set boundaries, we are inviting everything into our lives, good and bad alike.By knowing what matters to you, you will be able to create some boundaries. When you know yourself, putting boundaries against things that aren’t aligned will be much easier.

Learn How To Say No!

This is a part of going with the flow. Saying no and being firm about it are two important skills. Don’t give in to the temptation to do something you don’t want. Your tendency to change your mind easily is something people will recognize and know they only have to ask several times before you agree. Some ideas illustrate how to say no politely if you think giving a flat no is rude.

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5 Ways to Express Your Emotions in a Healthy Feminine Manner Pt 2

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Here’s are 5 more ways to express your emotions in a healthy feminine manner.

Pamper yourself

Wash your hair, go shopping, treat yourself to a spa day. Whatever it is that helps you unwind and feel pampered do it! This isn’t a long-term solution to unresolved feelings it might be a quick fix to turn your day and mood around.

Invest in therapy

I highly encourage all women on their journey to better themselves to go to therapy.We are all the products of our childhood, and many of us have experienced trauma as children. It is your job to explore those feelings and get to the root of your issues. A therapist who has experience can help you with this!

Process your emotions

Rest and recovery should be a part of all processes. Take time to reflect on what triggered your emotional state. Dealing with your emotions is the key to healing.

Exercise

Regulating our emotions can be made easier through exercise. When we exercise, our body releases dopamine and endorphins that give us all types of good feelings of reward & pleasure. In addition to it being good for our long term health.

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Habibi a solo date

I hope we get to experience Love like no-other in this lifetime

Vacations plus colours

ARoutine

Sporty and rich

Intention over attention

It is all attainable baby, you just got to believe.

6 Ways To Level Up After a Breakup

Success can be the sweetest revenge if that’s what you want, but doing what’s best for you and leveling up focuses that energy on yourself instead one upping someone else. Find the rest of the advice on patreon here. It’s public for a limited time to be fair to my paying patrons.

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I revived the sugar silk insta and will be 10x more interactive there since It’s easier for me to use than tumblr. I will still post main things here, but because of the story feature you’ll get more daily action from me like my twitter on insta.

I will follow everyone back until I hit 100 followers.

Let your man cook for you sometime and just relax while you wait for the food. Let him enjoy serving a goddess and let yourself enjoy the act of receiving.