#words of wisdom
To myself, raised in an environment that glorified and romanticized restriction and suffering:
There is no victory in skipping dinner, or lunch, or breakfast, or morning coffee, or dessert.
There is no victory in refusing heaters and air conditioners and fans and heated blankets.
There is no victory in denying yourself sleep, or showers, or movement, or water, or a comfortable bed, or taking the elevator vs. the stairs.
There is no victory in refusing pain meds and heating pads and ice packs and medical help.
There is no victory in punishing yourself needlessly, in telling yourself that this pain you feel is because you are bad to the core and deserve it.
There is no victory in choking back your laughter and your tears, to keep an imagined equilibrium of safety that is really just a dry, cracked, empty, endless emotional desert.
You are here. You are in this body, and this body is yours. You deserve good things. You are alive, and that is messy and loud, and messy and loud are okay.
It’s okay to live abundantly. It’s okay to make mistakes, it’s okay to indulge. This paralysis of self-punishment, self-restriction, self-loathing is not healthy or good for you.
“Don’t make her wait for you just because you know she will.”—
Never give up on anyone; this also includes not giving up on yourself!
It’s time to stop treating first dates, first kisses, and losing virginity as milestones or rites of passage that must be completed. It’s time to stop expecting these things to happen in everyone’s teen years or even in their twenties. It’s time to stop letting people call themselves “late bloomers” for getting their first kiss at 16. It’s stupid. It’s unnecessary. It’s damaging to people who for whatever reason it may be don’t have romantic prospects or don’t even want to do those things.
““Kings and lords come and go and leave nothing but statues in a desert, while a couple of young men tinkering in a workshop change the way the world works.””— Lord Havelock Vetinari, The Truth, Discworld book 25
there is
that feeling of heaviness,
like drowing in a river of frustration.
but at some point,
right now,
doesn’t life seems to be on pause.
far from the hustle and bustle,
finding in old books smell, the little walks you are allowed to have, seeing birds flying out in the sky, in that sunray kissing the face and the moon giving us company at night,
some peace to your restlessness?
“You’ll never be able to find yourself if you’re lost in someone else.”— Colleen Hoover, November 9
5 Types of People You Want to Surround Yourself With
- The Inspired
- The Passionate
- The Motivated
- The Grateful
- The Open Minded
Type if you agree
Your energy is your greatest currency, be selective where you spend it.
Drop a if you agree!