tertol-cronch3r:

tertol-cronch3r:

I have never seen a single “ugly” or not amazing girl. I know this is an nb/mlm/nb acc but I think solidarity is important :)

Straight girls are valid and beautiful

Bi girls, lesbians and girls who like girls in general are splendid and amazing :) aro and/or ace girls deserve so much love and attention

Girls who are questioning are lovely and powerful

Trans women and girl related people should honestly rule the world /hj

Girls who don’t use labels are super rad and valid too!

Masculine, androgynous and gnc girls are incredible btw, y’all get all my love <333 same with feminine girls :)

Also pssst! Neurodivergent and neuroatypical girls: you rock too! Your unique experiences don’t reflect your value as a person! You can and deserve to find happiness, even if the journey to do so is different for you than your peers :)

Chubby+fat girls, you deserve so much more love and respect than society offers.

Girls, if you’re seeing this, you rock, you’re amazing, you’re strong, you got this :) let’s build a better world together

Also i stg if I see a single one of you saying ur an exception /j but please don’t do that bc I mean all girls and girl related people :)

Anyway ily now go be urself and do things that make ye happy bc u deserve it (yes, you. Don’t deny it or you will catch these hands /j)

**do not derail**

(Will be making edits as time passes)

Girls with bumps in their noses! Girls with strong jawlines, girls with strong brow ridges or bold eyebrows!! Girls with thin lips or small eyes :0 bald girls, skinny girls, plus size girls, muscular girls, tall girls, average sized girls, short girls, girls with stretch marks, skin conditions, girls with big noses! All girls who don’t fit the societal beauty standards! I see you, I love you

*feel free to add on, just don’t derail. Mens positivity coming soon*

Mid sized girls are lovely, I know y’all are often forgotten about

BIPOC girls are so precious, you’re all important and you have a place in this world

Hey, disabled girls, you go through so much. Your struggles are real, you’re worth loving and respecting

Hey girls who use xenoidentities/microlabels, you’re so cool! I think it’s amazing that you use these to express yourself/your identity. The same also applies to those of multisexual identities (Eg: bi, pan, omni, ply, etc)

Girls who like collecting, girls who don’t

Girls who like sports/outdoors activities, girls who prefer to stay inside

Girls with paranoia or anxiety or unhappy obsessions/obsessions that get in the way of your happiness/ability to function, I know you worry. I know it’s hard. I hope that someday soon you’ll have peace of mind

Girls who are broken hearted, you’re so strong. You’ve gone through a lot I’m sure but you got this! You can do it /g

Girls who need encouragement, I love you. You’re doing great :)

Once again this applies to all girls, feel free to add on but don’t derail!

Keep discourse away from this post!

Just in case y’all thought I forgot♥️✊

I haven’t been on this page in so long, but I’m back now. I forgot how much joy it brings me to see all the support my posts get on here. Black people really deserve a safe space to just love ourselves in peace

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Alissa Ashley ❤️

Come sit all that right over here !!!!

Creamy Exotica

Dm for More!

I want to try to post more positive messages and responsive things on here. who wants 2 get active with me online yay I want to share advice and uplifting conversation, the world is a crazy place but I want to live it all the way out.. !

July 14, 2021

Hey! So can you believe it’s been 9 months? My baby will be here in less than 2 weeks! Wowwwww! I’ve been through so much these past few months and I think it’s made me a better person; for me and my son. I’m would say my maturity have grown significantly, I mean has to I’ll be responsible so a little person very soon. And even though I’m still technically homeless I know things will work themselves out. It’s been pretty hard trying to find a place during the pandemic and my job let me go back in April because I was pregnant. Well actually my midwife wrote a doctors note stating that I have severe back issues due to my scoliosis so she asked my job to give my 15 minute breaks to just sit down every 2 or so hours. They weren’t having that and told me that same week that they were letting me go. My only source of income, just taken from me because of my pregnancy. So I decided I would start walking dogs again. When I started making actual money to save up a month later someone hit and totaled my car which was my only way of transportation to get back and forth to my walks. I had to spend my all my savings on on towing and other sources transportation (like Lyft or metro - public transportation). So my boyfriend had to get a job ASAP. It’s gets paid enough now for us to get a place but the landlords are making it so hard to move in! Did you know someone has to make 3x their rent to move into a place? I’ve never… I wasn’t saying all of this to complain or for someone to feel sorry for me I just haven’t gotten you all caught up. Besides everything that has happened I wholeheartedly believe that everything will work out for us. Sometimes I worry but there’s no point in worrying and stressing about something you can’t control. I’ll keep this optimism attitude and I’ll keep looking for a solutions for our situation because I refuse to have my baby and not have our own place. Oh!! Last thing, I’m 38 weeks pregnant! Hopefully he comes sooner than later but I won’t rush my little man. I can’t wait to see him! I’m so excited!! :3 well until next time, peace✌︎

Oil on canvas or Soul on canvas ?

By Elena Gual

blackgirlliberated:

About this blog

A space that captures the thoughts, struggles, highs and lows from Black girls. I want this to be a safe space where Black girls can feel supported, heard, and have a sounding board to say what’s on their mind. A safe space where we can feel liberated.

I also want to make it interactive so I’ll eventually ask for y’all to submit thoughts, celebrations, milestones, fears, etc. and I’ll post them to this account and Instagram (will post anonymously).

While the blog and IG will have Black women at the top of mind, allies, you are more than welcome to follow! Allies are an integral part of getting underrepresented groups heard and I appreciate y’all for the work you do! I’m sure there will be some content that allies can relate to, however, that is not the main point which is to give Black girls a safe space to share and be heard.

There will definitely be content that I’m sure everyone can learn from which is most important.

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Content coming soon

Please remember to read the “About this blog” before following, and/or reblogging.

There is a very clear description in my pinned post and as my bio going over the purpose of this blog and WHY I’m emphasizing Black girls. When referencing Black girls, I’m talking all Black girls, so Black Trans Women as well. Just because I emphasize Black girls does not mean that these post do not apply to non-Black women.

As many of us know, have experienced, and have seen through the media, misogynoir is very real. The the lack of empathy and weight that’s put on Black girls, and the double standard is detrimental to our health. If we look at the difference in how Black girls are treated and cared for in society as a whole (as well as your discomfort around a post trying to uplift us), then you already know this. Please do not “all lives matter” my posts because I am in no way saying that this doesn’t apply to others.

Please do not “all lives matter” my posts or anything along those lines. I said Black girls, but that doesn’t mean this means “only" Black girls. Also, if you’re uncomfortable with my emphasis on Black girls and trying to uplift us, please ask yourself why and please do not follow me.

This blog is growing fast and I thank you all so much for your support.

Thank you!

Black girls:

- Your features are not ugly

- Hype yourself up like no other

- Your feelings are completely valid

- Prioritize your mental health and sanity

- You are allowed to decline in or order to prioritize your mental health

- Allow yourself to be vulnerable. You are allowed to be vulnerable

- “Struggle love” is not normal and you don’t deserve it

- Write down your needs, talk yourselves through them, and get comfortable with stating them to others

You got this.✨✨✨

Get yourself friends that validate your traumatic experiences, thoughts, and feelings instead of questioning them.

Reminder: You deserve to feel mentally, physically, & emotionally safe. ✨✨✨

To all my Black girls out there, please know that you are loved and that you do not always have to show up for others, especially in a society that doesn’t always show up for you.

Reminder:

I am the prize✨

Friendly reminder:

Your happiness and mental health has to be a priority. If something isn’t aligning with that, speak up. If you’ve communicated this and nothing has changed, start preparing to walk away.

You do not have to live in misery in order to be a “stronger person”. Don’t let society make you think this. Our history is already built on trauma, you don’t need further trauma in your relationships, your profession, etc. You can be happy and you can be mentally safe without having to endure a ton of pain.

In order for you to be the best you can be, you have to be in an environment that will allow you to do this.

Happy Black History Month ❤️

Here’s to:

- working on your mental health

- developing your confidence

- drinking more water

- not allowing others to walk over you

- getting your fitness routine going

- incorporating healthier foods to your diet

- setting realistic goals and expectations for yourself

- working on being a better communicator

- believing in yourself

- being kind to yourself

- just taking care of you

You got this. ✨✨✨

When it comes to Black women’s hairstyles/protective styles, I do not want to see non-Black women wearing them. Here’s why:

Our hair is such a huge part of our history, our identity,our Black excellence, and our regality. Read that again. This is constantly trying to be taken away from us.

It’s really frustrating that this is another thing that we can’t have to ourselves. It’s not fair for that to be taken by others. Non-Black women do not have to worry about being discriminated againstorpoliced for wearing our protective styles and could really care less while they’re walking around carefree in costume. All they think is, well it looks good on Black women so I want to try it. Those who use “cultural appreciation” as an excuse think they’re doing us a favor when they really could have just appreciated from a distance instead of crossing the line.

To me, it sends the messages of “this isn’t yours, this is ours now”, “you can’t have something without us having a part in it as well”, or “joke’s on you for thinking you can have a part of your culture without us getting a piece too”. It’s no different from how every other aspect of our lives and bodies have been policed and controlled throughout history.

My hair is another aspect that I love about being a Black woman but as Black women know, we can’t love being Black women, we’re not allowed to be comfortable, we’re not allowed to feel beautiful, we’re not allowed to own our beauty without someone taking offense. I wish that non-Black women, non-black people, and even Black people would try to understand this.

ETA: Non-black women includes non-Black women of color. Not exempt.

blackgirlliberated:

Black women deserve to be taken care of vs always being the caretakers.

Read that again.

Love the support behind this post!

This is a post about emotional and physical safety. There are different forms of caretaking - emotional, physical, etc. This isn’t a post about literally being taken care of, however, there’s nothing wrong if this post resignated with you in that way. In our culture, Black women have always been the matriarchs, and with that, our health, safety, and needs fall to the side. Many have seen this with their grandmothers, mothers, sisters, themselves, etc. It is the norm for many.

Black women are also seen as being “strong” as if we don’t feel pain so we don’t need to be tended to… we’ve seen our physical and mental safety be disregarded especially in the healthcare system and we’ve been gaslighted even in our own community.

This post is a reminder that you deserve to have your emotional and physical well-being cared for, this shouldn’t be one-sided.

In order to see change, mindsets that have been held for a long time need to change and awareness needs to be brought. Tags like #blackgirlsmatter and #supportblackwomen exist for a reason.

Black women deserve to be taken care of vs always being the caretakers.

Read that again.

As I reflect on the past 1-2 years, some of the things that I’ve committed to myself still stand true.

What are some things you’re committing to yourself in the New Year?

Sometimes you really just have to let some people be in their damn feelings!

While your intentions are good, offering unwarranted solutions when someone’s feeling low AF can often times dig a deeper hole, ex: more negative thoughts, bring on anxiety/increase anxiety, feeling misunderstood, feeling incapable while also feeling pressure (ex: omg I have to try to bring myself to do XYZ to get out of this episode when I’m already struggling with X?!), etc.

What I mean by unwarranted solutions is saying things like, “I did this and it worked”, “you should try this”, “that’s tough…. BUT have you thought about”….

JEEZUS MAKE IT STOP!!!

Okay… but how do I know whether to give my input or not?

When someone’s venting to you, ask them if they’d like your input/advice or if they prefer you to just listen.

If they want you to just listen, JUST LISTEN. Don’t feel like you need to solve a problem or provide therapy unless you’re actually their therapist!

‼️However, if this person is in harm (this also includes harming themselves) and the situation is detrimental to their well being, definitely do not take a back seat! Listen to what they’re telling you, sometimes it’s not just venting.‼️

A listening ear sometimes, especially from a friend, is more than enough. Let them be in their damn feelings! #respectfully

About this blog

A space that captures the thoughts, struggles, highs and lows from Black girls. I want this to be a safe space where Black girls can feel supported, heard, and have a sounding board to say what’s on their mind. A safe space where we can feel liberated.

I also want to make it interactive so I’ll eventually ask for y’all to submit thoughts, celebrations, milestones, fears, etc. and I’ll post them to this account and Instagram (will post anonymously).

While the blog and IG will have Black women at the top of mind, allies, you are more than welcome to follow! Allies are an integral part of getting underrepresented groups heard and I appreciate y’all for the work you do! I’m sure there will be some content that allies can relate to, however, that is not the main point which is to give Black girls a safe space to share and be heard.

There will definitely be content that I’m sure everyone can learn from which is most important.

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Content coming soon