And they banned me without giving me an ability to answer that no, I *personally* wouldn’t say that, but it *still* doesn’t give a right for someone to rape the unwilling party.
Grow the fuck up or go to jail for promoting rape of gay people.
I would say that! Like in a heartbeat I would say that. I’m pretty sure I have said that.
So you tell people off for being fat and having an eating disorder but also willingly and on purpose trigger said eating disorder.
Yeah just fuck you
Just because for some people this blunt approach could be eye-opening doesn’t mean it’s for everyone. Specially if they have an ed and trying their best to treat it, professionals involved or not, you as an outsider aren’t one (even if you had similar experiences). Why would you purposely say that? Yeah, you don’t have to play into ones “delusions” (like some people call it) but intentionally doing that is morally questionable in my opinion. @transmedicalism-saves-lives
First off? Fat people don’t have restrictive eating disorders, they have excessive eating disorders. Anything that makes them eat less is doing a favor. Second, if they’re trying to sleep with me I have every right to inform them of the reason that ain’t gonna happen.
Yes to having that right, but saying it “in a heartbeat” sounds like not caring about them at all. As if you were doing them a favour by causing a guilty conscience. I like going by the rule if they can’t fix it within a minute keep it to yourself, especially if they are trying to fix it already. If they were pressuring you or whatever like cornering you by all means you don’t have to be nice imo. Personally I think your approach is unnecessarily provocative and will do more harm than good. People in general respond more to support and help than being that blunt.
Plus I think what they meant by “eating disorder” was anorexia/bulimia, not compulsive eating. Which is truly an assholish thing to do to someone with these disorders.
But yeah, you can reject someone without triggering dysphoria. There’s a big difference between “I’m not into trans people, sorry” and “FUCK YOU, YOU SICK DEGENERATE RAPIST, YOU’LL ALWAYS BE A HOMOPHOBIC MAN/WOMAN NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO!!!”
Whatever happened to “you don’t need to give a reason to reject someone?”
Point taken. If you do give a reason, just don’t be an asshole about it.
It’s also incredibly vile to insist that fat people only have excessive eating disorders. If you refuse to acknowledge that anorexia can (and oftentimes does) occur in fat people, you’re… literally just a piece of shit, I don’t know how else to say it.
Anorexia is literally characterized by dangerously low body weight. This is what happens when people start self-dx’ing.
honey, you’re not a doctor, and you obviously know jack shit about eating disorders. please, for the love of god, look up “atypical anorexia” and stop spouting bullshit you have no clue about?
Dude you’re straight up wrong. Fat people aren’t limited to binge eating disorders. You’re clearly aware that you’re wrong and all you’re doing is digging yourself a deeper hole. You’re wrong. Get over it.
You don’t have to be at a dangerously low weight to be anorexic. You can catch an illness before it becomes incredibly serious and treat it then. Just because an anorexic fat person is however many pounds doesn’t mean they haven’t lost a large amount of weigh in a short period of time. It doesn’t mean they won’t eventually become dangerously underweight.
I never thought my eating disorder was real cause I was never severely emaciated. Yes I was underweight and yes I had a feeding tube at one point, but people would always make comments like “You are extremely skinny, but it doesnt look like you have an ed”. Now my brain is constantly like prove it to yourself and get THAT skinny. Then another part of my brain is like, that’s so stupid and will only make you more miserable. Anyone relate or am I just crazy lol?
I’m giving away this basic diet plan that many dietitians give out and many athletes, such as Michael Phelps, use. I really don’t care if you do it or not - I can’t make you work hard, and once you adjust it isn’t hard work.
Talk to your Doctor:
If you’re reading this then chances are that you already have concerns regarding your diet. Be sensible. Especially if you have a known injury or condition that might impair your ability to exercise or eat properly.
The First Thing To Do:
Make sure that you are actually overweight. Females in particular tend to deem themselves overweight when they aren’t. Check your BMI. If you can’t read your BMI properly from a lack of know how, don’t Google it! This is something for you to ask your GP/Doctor/Nurse to check out. Keep in mind that nurses can only give advice and opinions. To my knowledge they aren’t qualified to give educated and fully informed advice to someone.
Step #1 - Moderation:
I can’t say anything more than moderation is the key to this diet. You need to limit how much you eat and how often you eat it. Not the things you eat.
Ideally you should be eating 3 small meals a day and 3 snacks throughout the day. But I can’t tell you how much you should eat. If you are around 95 kg then I would recommend about 15-20 grams of whatever you want for breakfast, to 30-40 grams of whatever you want for lunch and dinner.
You should be eating once every 2-3 hours. So if you wake up at 10AM you eat 15 grams of cereal and by 11AM, perhaps eat a snack (such as a banana) and by 1PM you should be eating 30 grams of lunch.
But it is all dependent on how much is actually best for you. You should figure out how much you eat and adjust it accordingly.
Youcan have things like McDonalds every now and again. Once a week isn’t even horrible. You have to stick to eating 30-40 grams of whatever you want and instead of ordering fizzy drinks you order the light/zero equivalent of them. If you order juice instead; that is better. But people tend to go full-pelt into their diets too fast and then just crash.
Step #2 - Exercise:
Exercise is the Yang to moderation’s Yin. You need balance in life.
The minimum anyone should really be exercising, in my opinion, is 4 times a week.
If your goal is weight loss you shouldn’t be hitting the weight bench. Lifting adds muscle, so just lifting weights is not ideal. Even if you mix in weight lifting with cardiovascular exercises such as running, it isn’t great because when you gain muscle it makes it difficult to determine how much weight you have actually lost.
I’d recommend you do four 30 minutes + (dependent on how fit you are) sessions of cardio a week. Running and swimming are both examples of cardio exercises.
I, personally, prefer swimming. When you have good swimming technique swimming is generally much better for your body, can burn higher rates of calories when you swim for the same amount of time you run (although this is dependent on how good of a runner or swimmer you are) and it is generally better for your metabolic system.
Step #3 - Hobbies:
A hobby can be really beneficial to getting in shape. It makes exercise fun for those who don’t think it is. Hobbies don’t have to be serious, here is a list of hobbies that are fun and are labelled on how intense of a sport it is. (Keep in mind this is my opinion on the sport’s intensity - it might vary in your experience):
Longboarding/Skateboarding. (Light)
Archery (Light)
Tennis (Mild)
Badminton (Mild)
Surfing (Mild)
Kickboxing/Thai Boxing (Intense)
Judo (Intense)
American Football/Rugby (Intense)
Swimming (Light/Mild/Intense - Controllable)
Enjoy:
Feel free to use this, or not to use it. I hope it helps!
Ronda Rousey sets a good example body-wise. Keep in mind, if you are female (or male), that you cannot have her body. You are not her.
Everyone has their own frame and their own build. You should be staying within your own BMI (Body Mass Index) and not judging your fitness just by your weight. Being underweight or overweight is dependent on your BMI, and quite frankly; acting catty because someone is overweight (And much more recently, surprisingly, and aggressively abuse has occurred to the latter) or being underweight is wrong. Half the time they’re not even underweight or overweight, you just say they are because they don’t have Scarlette Johnasson’s body or whatever.
Keep this in mind (for the majority): you are never going to be a catwalk model. Those people do exist, regardless of what you get told. It’s not all smoke, mirrors, and Photoshop. There are tall and beautiful women and that is why they get chosen to model clothes on a catwalk. Some of them do eat too little and smoke so that they can do it. It’s not the best route, but again: it’s their body and they shouldn’t be subject to torment because of how they choose to live. It’s the same kind of persecution that has bred hatred between people because of their skin colour or sexual orientation. Others, however, just have the build and look for it naturally. They can’t help the way they look. No one has a means to modify their genetics before they’re born. They embraced it, just get over it.
To be honest; you shouldn’t care either. Are you so desperate that you need to be the apex female in terms of aesthetic? There are so many women out there, some look different and some look similar. No man (or woman) is attracted to just one type of female. There are people that aren’t attracted to women like Megan Fox, who has been rated the sexiest female alive multiple times.
Abuse:
Hurling abuse at someone isn’t the way to help them better their bodies. In fact; it is none of your business to tell them what to do with their body. It is theirs, to treat as they wish.
“Real women have curves” - potential bullshit right there. So you’re saying women who don’t have the build or access to curves aren’t women? Not only that but all too often being overweight is now being defined as having curves. Being overweight supplies some very serious health risks. As does being underweight. If you’re overweight you’re not “cuddly”, yes some people find it attractive; but you’re still not cuddly. Additional, dangerous layers of fat aren’t “cuddly”. Bottom line, end of.
Common Health Risks In Obesity:
Type 2 diabetes
Heart disease
Breast and Colon Cancer (And other forms)
Strokes
Common Health Risks In Being Underweight:
Osteoporosis (Fragile Bone Disease)
Anemia (Lack of red blood cells, causing tiredness)
Low immune system which opens you up to illness.
(Women) - Interrupted periods, potentially causing a lack of fertility and difficulty in becoming pregnant.
Don’t like it? Don’t do it:
I’m not saying you have to keep your body healthy. It is just obviously the most wise and sensible option and path to take. Treating your body like a temple is more beneficial than treating it like a waste disposal unit. At the end of the day, it is your choice. But just don’t get bitchy about other people, men or women, because you think they look better than you. Maybe it’s in your head, but maybe it’s not.
There are people that will dislike you because of how you look and there will be those who are attracted to you because of how you look. Honestly though? I think you should be keeping your body healthy because it makes you more confident as a person, more outgoing and energetic, and makes you feel better – it’s sort of like taking in an extra dosage of Vitamin D when you are able to maintain a healthy body.
For those overweight:
Pretty soon I’m going to release a free diet post on this Tumblr, and I will link it in this post too.
Keep in mind that pretty much anyone can subscribe to this diet, but you’ll want to consult a doctor if you are unsure about anything that stands out to you before doing it first. And if he doesn’t think my idea of a good diet is sensible then maybe you’re best off following his advice.
