And they banned me without giving me an ability to answer that no, I *personally* wouldn’t say that, but it *still* doesn’t give a right for someone to rape the unwilling party.
Grow the fuck up or go to jail for promoting rape of gay people.
I would say that! Like in a heartbeat I would say that. I’m pretty sure I have said that.
So you tell people off for being fat and having an eating disorder but also willingly and on purpose trigger said eating disorder.
Yeah just fuck you
Just because for some people this blunt approach could be eye-opening doesn’t mean it’s for everyone. Specially if they have an ed and trying their best to treat it, professionals involved or not, you as an outsider aren’t one (even if you had similar experiences). Why would you purposely say that? Yeah, you don’t have to play into ones “delusions” (like some people call it) but intentionally doing that is morally questionable in my opinion. @transmedicalism-saves-lives
First off? Fat people don’t have restrictive eating disorders, they have excessive eating disorders. Anything that makes them eat less is doing a favor. Second, if they’re trying to sleep with me I have every right to inform them of the reason that ain’t gonna happen.
Yes to having that right, but saying it “in a heartbeat” sounds like not caring about them at all. As if you were doing them a favour by causing a guilty conscience. I like going by the rule if they can’t fix it within a minute keep it to yourself, especially if they are trying to fix it already. If they were pressuring you or whatever like cornering you by all means you don’t have to be nice imo. Personally I think your approach is unnecessarily provocative and will do more harm than good. People in general respond more to support and help than being that blunt.
Plus I think what they meant by “eating disorder” was anorexia/bulimia, not compulsive eating. Which is truly an assholish thing to do to someone with these disorders.
But yeah, you can reject someone without triggering dysphoria. There’s a big difference between “I’m not into trans people, sorry” and “FUCK YOU, YOU SICK DEGENERATE RAPIST, YOU’LL ALWAYS BE A HOMOPHOBIC MAN/WOMAN NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO!!!”
Whatever happened to “you don’t need to give a reason to reject someone?”
Point taken. If you do give a reason, just don’t be an asshole about it.
It’s also incredibly vile to insist that fat people only have excessive eating disorders. If you refuse to acknowledge that anorexia can (and oftentimes does) occur in fat people, you’re… literally just a piece of shit, I don’t know how else to say it.
Anorexia is literally characterized by dangerously low body weight. This is what happens when people start self-dx’ing.
honey, you’re not a doctor, and you obviously know jack shit about eating disorders. please, for the love of god, look up “atypical anorexia” and stop spouting bullshit you have no clue about?
Dude you’re straight up wrong. Fat people aren’t limited to binge eating disorders. You’re clearly aware that you’re wrong and all you’re doing is digging yourself a deeper hole. You’re wrong. Get over it.
You don’t have to be at a dangerously low weight to be anorexic. You can catch an illness before it becomes incredibly serious and treat it then. Just because an anorexic fat person is however many pounds doesn’t mean they haven’t lost a large amount of weigh in a short period of time. It doesn’t mean they won’t eventually become dangerously underweight.
This whole post is literally just a pity party, I’m so sorry
But I’m working as an assistant to this athletics club for teens and kids (ikr? GREAT place for an ED sufferer to work), and I usually do that during the summers. And I’m fairly familiar with all the kids. Anyway. What’s really fucked up, is how upset I am/was about the lack of comments I got on my weight loss? (And whats fucked up is, why do I feel this way? That is SO toxic! Like I feel awful that I’m disappointed about not getting the attention I wanted. And I’m literally so sorry for that) I’ve literally hit my LOWEST WEIGHT EVER and was kind of expecting more people to comment on it… only one parent did, which made me really happy cuz she’s always been so sweet to me “oh my gosh look at you lost weight! Look at me, I lost weight too yes?” She’s ADORABLE I love her so much. But idk. I guess just the lack of attention just made me feel like I haven’t lost ENOUGH weight. Like I’m not THIN enough. Like I don’t look SICK enough.. which i know it’s so awful for me to think that way, I KNOW it’s awful to think that way, and I know it’s not valid in any sense just.. I can’t HELP it and I feel guilty about that.
And then on top of that. Another girl lost like a TON of weight, and I can tell I weigh less than her still, and the sick part of my mind is super happy about that, but, I felt overshadowed? Like. Not good enough? Like I didn’t make the impact I wanted. And that all just topped off the absolute verbal slashing that my mom gave me just before I headed out the door to head to the athletics place. Like, guys she went OFF on me, saying how I “just make everything so much harder just by being here” because I turned her fan back on for her after I was done vacuuming?????? Ummm??? Ok ♀️
This day just… It wasn’t what I thought it would be, even though I didn’t even realize I had expectations for it. I was ultimately going to be let down either way though, you know? because. What was I expecting? Who’s gunna just walk right up and tell me I lost so much weight, you know? I couldn’t expect people to go and do that. And.. idk, who knows… maybe I haven’t lost as much weight as I think. Like, maybe you can’t SEE it as much as I hope.
I will say though, I really appreciate the manager for realizing the anxiety my mother was giving me when she kept hovering over me while he was trying to have a private conversation with me at one point, and took it upon himself to tell my mom to go back inside. It was small but that really meant so much to me. And he also ASKED me if I felt comfortable with taking on a few extra responsibilities, where as my mother just TOLD me I was going to. It really, really meant a lot to me.
Purge, let it out , cry , yell, do what ever it takes to process it. Then stop going back to it. If you keep picking at it, it will never heal. Let it go.Move on with your life.
