That ain’t it chief. I’m sure some of you guys have seen profiles like this before. Parents invading their childs privacy and posting pictures/videos of their child displaying symptoms only to brag about how hard their life is and to fish for comments of praise from others. Also parents of neurodivergent children who advocate for organisations like Autism Speaks, either they haven’t done their research or they have and believe that their child needs to be cured which of course is wrong on so many levels. Ain’t it chief.
So I have a little boy who is 12 yo and he is autistic. His most favorite thing in the whole world is swimming in our modest above ground pool.
Lately the wasps have returned with a vengence! Like were there ever this many
My little dude is completely petrified of them! And now he’s scared if going in the pool They are heartless bastards, you can’t change my mind don’t try. My evidence he’s (little dude) been stung 4 times. He wouldn’t hurt a bacteria! He’s the sweetest most gentle and kind little boy. He’ll hug a person he’s just met. He will shower you with kisses and hugs. He is sweet like diabetic SWEET.
YES WASPS ARE BASTARDS!
Ok so what can mama bear do?
I can crochet
Mom to the rescue!
So I spent two afternoons and I came up with my own design for this super simple crochet pattern! Now I’ll have these hanging EVERYWHERE.
Wasps are bastards I know you agree but they are pollinators, so they have some redeeming qualities. This is the perfect thing to deter them and it works!!! No risky spraying (booo unnecessary chemicals) they just buzz off!
If you’d like the crochet pattern you can find it here:
All proceeds go to movie candy for the Saturday night family movie ♥️
Autism in media: I got bored so I read three science textbooks and completed all these equations and now I’m working on the coding for this app-
Autism in real life: I’m so bored that every bone in my body feels like it’s being turned into one but don’t even talkto me about doing something about it
Me:Maybe I don’t have ADHD… Maybe I’ve been faking it for attention after all.
Also me when I watch anything: Speeding up the playback because I don’t have an attention span, adding subtitles because auditory processing issues, turning the volume up to god Themselves to prevent a Thought from coming, and ending up scrolling through memes the whole time
some of you may’ve heard about that fancy “bionic reading” typefont thats supposed to be easier for neurodivergent people to read (if you’re unfamiliar, it bolds the first few letters of each word to make it easier to follow)
well guess what, its locked behind a $500 a month API to write in because fuck you!
introducing, Not Bionic Reading! it is literally just the bionic reading typefont but for free. god bless neocities
[Image ID: Screenshot of tweet by Haley Moss (@/haleymossart):
Autism on TV: I’m a human supercomputer, solving the world’s most complex mathematical and technological mysteries
Autism in real life: I need to mentally rehearse making a phone call to a customer service rep for the thousandth time and then I want quiet for the rest of the day
If i may expand upon this, as another autistic person: yeah. This is literally it. Everyone always gets sad when i mention that i only know the names of four of my ckassmates. They dont understand that that is purely because i only learn the names of people that i either absolutely have to, or find interesting. I am happy with my four friends and my ambivalence towards everyone else.
Everyone also assumes ambition in life. And we hile i do have an aspiration, its not all that grand. I do have an ideal job, but failing that, anything will do. I simply want to have enough to get by. I want enough money to be able to comfortably afford a small apartment, and have enough left over to buy furniture with good texture, food with a good taste, and a stable wifi connection.
If i have that and 3 close friends i can be happy for the rest of my days.
I would likely leave my house for groceries, work, and to see those 3 friends. Maybe a love life would come into play at some point, maybe not.
And no neurotypical i have met seems to comprehend how i could be happy with a life like that.
One of the really, really frustrating things about being autistic is that you feel like you spend your life trying to reach some sort of unattainable middle-ground:
- We’re criticised for not making enough conversation, but when we do actually really get in to a conversation we are told we’re ‘too intense’.
- We’re often trained to maintain unbroken eye-contact during conversations, yet in reality too much eye-contact is called ‘staring’ and makes people very, veryuncomfortable.
- We’re encouraged to ‘express’ ourselves more, yet our actual, genuine emotional reactions are usually deemed ‘innapropiate’ or ‘unnescessary’.
- We’re told to be friendly and confident when approaching new people, but are then warned that we ‘come off too strong’.
- We are told to try and make interesting conversation, but are also taught that speaking about our interests will only ever annoy other people.
- We’re asked to explain our difficulties and anxieties, only to be told that these explanations ‘make no sense’ or that our worries are unrealistic and invalid.
- We’re expected to force ourselves in to social situations that feel overwhelming and draining yet still somehow remain friendly, good-tempered and pleasantly sociable.
- We are encouraged to develop good self-esteem, while at the exact same time being taught that everything about us is wrong.
I don’t hate having autism - I’ve never hated having autism. But I do hate living with the never-ending pressure to attain this mythological ‘perfect’ level of social interaction that simply doesn’t exist in my case.
-We are told to use coping mechanism when we need them, but when we implement them we’re told to stop, act appropriately, and push through the situation “normally”.
- We’re told to pursue our creative passions, because according to diagnostic stereotypes we’re not supposed to have them, but when we prove adept and imaginative at making art, we’re dismissed as having unreasonable fixations, escapist tendencies, and wasting our time on producing content that has no value in capitalist terms. And even if we do make some money off our creative pursuits—unless we’re one of the infinitesimal percentage of creators who make millions—we’re told it’s not and never will be a real job.
…this is so depressingly true that I’m going to sit here, read it again, and pout autistically for a while. Until my ADHD brain sees something shinier.
I mean… I try so hard and get so far, but in the end it doesn’t really matter… and if I said anything more I’d be a whole Linkin Park song. But I try, I really do. It just doesn’t work out unless the people I’m interacting with are either part of a neurotribe or at least understand the issues.
Hey! Tired of having to share a month -that was chosen by allistics- with allistics? Tired of spending “your” month having to raise your voice over “autism moms”, promoting “awareness”, and fighting puzzle peices and hate groups? ~ WELL NO MORE!
August is officially Âûtistic Rebellion Month. Its ÂûtisticPRIDEMonth. We’re not out here for allistics - we’re out here for ourselves and this is OUR month. ❤
To celebrate, I’ll be making a cheeky Autistic Rebellion fact of the day for each day. Today’s fact is obviously: It’s Autistic Rebellion Month babeyyyy!
Anybody else who gets sensory hell when using body scrub when showering? I do. It starts to hurt and my legs are so itchy afterwards. But i can’t stop using it… my legs feel so soft afterwards. I honestly think i should stop using body scrub bc it’s sensory hell.. but at the same time i really like to touch body scrub.
It feels kinda weird and soapy and sometimes it even smell good.
That moment when you want to do all your special interests at the same time but can’t choose one.. cuz same!
I finally got into one of my special interests again.. i’m currently watching a thai tv show for the second time. The first one i watched the gifted and the gifted: graduation… now i’m watching blacklist. Does anybody have any recommendations for any thai tv shows? I would appreciate it.
That moment when you obsess over something and then the next week you find something new to obsess about. The ever changing cycles of my special interests in a nutshell. I have some many unfinished movies and tv series.. I have like 2 episodes left of the gifted: graduation.. i rly want to watch it but i’m just waaay to tired plus i have loads of other stuff to do.
I tend to “abandoned” stuff because i get a new special interest or i’m just waay to tired to obsess over that certain thing rn. Then i start to feel bad bc i just abandonded my interest like that for something else…
When you do online shopping am i the only one doesn’t really like starting on top of the page and then scrolling down to the bottom? I like starting at the bottom and then scrolling to the top. I mostly do it when i play dress up games to look for inspiration for my drawings.
But it depends on how much i have to scroll thorugh to reach the bottom of the page… Does anybody else do this?
Also merry belated christmas or happy holidays if you don’t celebrate it.
Well.. i’m to the final step in taking my drivers lisence on thursday. Bc on thursday i have my driving test. I’m really worried that i won’t pass.. bc i get overwhelmed really quickly. Any tips and tricks to be less nervous during the test that i can do? I have worked for it since may and now it’s November.. already half a year has passed.
I have a huge fear of failing…. I’m usually very hard on myself when it comes to failure.
Damn i’m stressed.. i have my drivers test in 9 days and there are many things which i need to memorize. On top of that i also i have a 5-6 page assigment to write in danish-history… plus i need to produce a short film in media studies for an exam. We also need to film outside of school… It all just feels so exhausting. It feels almost impossible to get through. I’m so afraid of failing my drivers test.
I also started high school and the days are really long. Thats why i haven’t posted.. i just feel way too drained of energy.
Question: How do you as an autistic person show affection? We all have our different ways of showing affection. Some of it may not be the (neurotypical) traditional way of showing love.
Answer: I occasionally hug people but not a lot. I’m not very affectionate. Sometimes getting hugged, cuddled or embraced in a hug (if that makes sense…) feels like a cage to me. Idk why but it makes me uncomfterable.
Wby you? How do you feel about affection from others? Or how do you show affection?
(I’m sorry i haven’t been updating much. But i just started in high school… and im very tired when i come home. But luckily its an all autistic class.. so we’re all autistic in that class)
- here is a short video of my artworks which i chose to exhibit. There are 7 in total! The quality is bad i know… Hehe
Soooo i got my art exhibited at a museum. It’s an exhibition where autistic people can exhibit their art. It lasts three days. I hung them up yesterday. This is a really big moment for me in my life! I reached one of my goals❤️❤️ It might only be three days.. But that doesn’t matter tho.
Soooo regarding my drivers lisence… Its getting hard financilley.. My parents really cant afford it anymore.. Bc it cost so much money.
Every time i tell them i feel pressured to do it they brush it off. And it makes me so damn mad!! Plus my driving teacher wants me to drive flawlessly before i can go up to the final driving test.
I feel really pressured bc i feel like im not good enough. Sometimes i drive pretty good and sometimes i drive pretty badly.
I also drive in a big city which just makes it all harder.
My parents are also feeling less and less optimistic about me getting my drivers lisence anytime soon.. That only makes me more unconfident than i already am. I feel like a failure
Who else feels depressed whenever there comes changes in your life? I’m finishing high school very soon and i just feel so depressed and it happens every time. Does anybody know how to cope with changes in your life? Because these few weeks i have felt so depressed due to the big changes that are happening soon.
Sooooo this summer i think i will start looking for a job. I have never had a job before,, but i have always wanted to have one. I hope to find a job nearby that’s somewhat “autism friendly”.
Sorry i haven’t uploaded in so long,, i’m currently writing a huge assignment on 10-15 pages. Plus i’m finishing my HF/highschool (højere forberedelses) this summer and i have quite a bit of exams to study to as well. Happy autism awarness month between!
(This was a couple of years ago lmao.. it has been sitting in my drafts for ages now. This was kinda at the start of quarantine in Denmark i think in 2020)
Today i went to pick up my package at the other side of the town i live in. When i said my name he picked up the wrong package. The person apparently had the same name as me. But it was the wrong package because it wasn’t the right adress on it. Then he finally found the right package and then he jokingly said “You must have a sister in this town” or something like that… Then i replied that i didn’t have a sister annndd then he said he was joking.
P.s all the covid restrictions has been lifted in my country aka Denmark!
Sooo i went to my very first high school party today. It’s almost midnight as im writing this.. i got home earlier than i expected i would. The party started at 19:30 and should end at 24:00.. There were a lot of people, lights, loud noises, very loud music and i couldn’t hear what my friends were saying (who btw are all autistic too). It was party that were rave themed.
And i had a mental breakdown and got sensory overloaded. I started crying. Luckily my friends were there to help me :)). But honestly i also thought the party was kinda boring.. i already started considering going home at 21 because the party was so boring. It has to be the most boring party that i’ve ever attended. Even tho it was kinda boring, loud etc. i’m also kinda glad i went. I discovered something new about myself and my boundaries. I have always fantazised about high school parties… but i found out they weren’t for me.
Do you have any similar experience regarding parties like this? If so i would love to hear them.
Soooo i have good news. I finally got my drivers license! It took me a little over a year to get it due to covid. But i’m happy. I feel as if a burden has been lifted off of my shoulders. I started 13st of may last year with driving lessons.
Fear of routine changes. This can lead to strict schedules to ensure the routine isn’t altered (ie, leaving early for work every time, ordering multiple of an item so no change can happen etc)
Anxiety when not able to interact with a special interest. This can increase burnout, meltdowns or shutdowns.
Fear of bad sensory input. This can lead to buying of multiple shirts of the same make, filling a freezer with the same food etc
Avoidance of social interaction due to anxiety of trying to understand social cues or anxiety of using scripts.
Fear of being misunderstood or previous trauma from showing autistic traits can lead to perfectionism in an effort to get by without being noticed.
Autistic masking can feed into anxiety as we are running off of pre-made conversations and interactions. Fear of people working “off script” can induce anxiety.
Increased sleep difficulties.
The need for the whole day to be planned in order to ensure no surprises can occur. Any changes need lots of notice and reasoning.
Seeming “more autistic” in order to try to cope with thoughts, changes, fears, noise etc
There are a lot of ways anxiety can be specific to autism and many traits are increased by this anxiety.
This is not a comprehensive list, and is just a few ideas.
The amount of things I did as a kid that I’m now realising were autistic traits is truly ridiculous ♀️
For example: Accidentally interrupting conversations, and getting scolded for doing so, even though I couldn’t control it/didn’t know I was doing it; comes to mind…
(So now I do this awkward ‘stand to the side until they stop talking so I can speak’ routine )
