Don’t let them fool you, kids. There are only good things about being gay.
This waiter at this random Newark Airport restaurant is an ex-coworker of Jake’s from when we lived in Miami. Now mine and my coworker’s drinks are free.
Chills. I can’t imagine my own high school showing up like this less than a decade ago to protest disgusting legislation like Florida’s Don’t Say Gay bill. The support Gen Z shows for the LGBTQ community is breathtaking.
“The good times and the bad times both will pass. It will pass. It will get easier. But the fact that it will get easier does not mean that it doesn’t hurt now. And when people try to minimize your pain they are doing you a disservice. And when you try to minimize your own pain you’re doing yourself a disservice. Don’t do that. The truth is that it hurts because it’s real. It hurts because it mattered. And that’s an important thing to acknowledge to yourself. But that doesn’t mean that it won’t end, that it won’t get better. Because it will.”-John Green
Happy Mew Years everyone. We all haf our struggles in 2015 and im so proud of each and everyone of you for makinh it to another year. You are all beautiful and dont let anyones shit bring you down because it does and will get better. 2016 will be a better year I promise.
Maybe you don’t put a steel blade to your wrist, but you constantly guilt yourself over a past that eats you alive.
Maybe you don’t abuse drugs, but you go from toxic relationship to toxic relationship because you weren’t taught any other form of love.
Maybe you don’t pop pills, but you drown yourself with liqour and parties because you’re too afraid to be alone with your thoughts.
Maybe you don’t have a traumatic past, but depression consumes you and you feel it isn’t valid because you’ve “had a good life.”
And maybe you haven’t tried to kill yourself, but you don’t feel alive either.
Self-harm, like abuse, is not just physical. It’s in your thoughts, your lack of action, and things much less visible. Treat your mind as your friend, if you wouldn’t tell your friend that she was worthless, ugly, and messed everything up, catch yourself when you do the same.
17 days without Opiates today! My record is 2 months and 1 week but I was in rehab for the 2 months, so here’s to the longest I’ve ever been sober outside of a medical facility :) go me
i want to feel like how the oh hello’s make me feel but on a daily basis.
returning to this account two years later and i can safely say i feel like this a lot more now, even if i don’t listen to the oh hellos anymore and even if it’s not permanent
i lost almost all my friends but i’ve got a best friend who i love infinitely and the guy i liked liked me back and now we’re together; i’m not great academically but i have a university to work towards now; i have hopes and dreams and i can look to the future with not just romanticism but with fondness that i know i will get to live in it
it gets better even if the betterness is not present every single day
Excerpt from the book: The Other Side of Silence: Men’s Lives & Gay Identities - A Twentieth-Century History by John Loughery
Paul Phillips was a young black gay man growing up in the Midwest during the early 20th century. He was the son of a fairly prosperous middle class lawyer within a family exemplifying the aspirations of the talented tenth. Somehow, rumors of Paul’s extracurricular activities revolving around his “sexual behavior and preference” reached his father. Quite calmly and plainly, his father explained to Paul that he was living his life within an “unnatural” condition since he did not evince a desire for the opposite sex within their small segregated community. To help his son overcome this “condition,” a trip was planned to the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota.
For a total of seven day, Paul was interviewed and examined. At the end, the doctors reported to Mr. Phillips and his wife that nothing could be done to change Paul; he would be a “homosexual” to the end of his days. And, that under Minnesota law at the time, they were required to report suspected gay men to the Rochester police, gay being a criminal offense. For whatever reason, the doctors, to the great relief of Mr. and Mrs. Phillips, declined to report Paul to the law enforcement authorities.
After returning home from an exacerbating trip that required them to camp out because they were not allowed to stay in white only hotels, Mr. Phillips came to a rather judicious conclusion about the sexual nature of his son. If his son suffered from an “illness” for which there was no cure, he would allow his son to lead his life as before, but lead it with DIGNITY and caution. Mr. Phillips said to Paul:
Find yourself a friend you can trust and bring him …What you do in your own room is your own business.
Mr. Phillips feared for Paul’s welfare. He understood the dangers of clandestine meeting spots where those like his son found one another and sometimes the law waiting for them.
It took Paul sometime to find a congenial lover, but at college in Topeka, Kansas after becoming a lawyer in the mid 1920′s, he met another black man, a musician who played the organ for churches near school and together they began a relationship of mutual affection providing a respite against an often hostile and prejudiced world.
Tips to stay healthy for people struggling with eating disorders and or body dysmorphia (side note: I know that this won’t be very easy, just remember to take your time and try not to be too hard on yourself)
1. Stay hydrated, remember to drink plenty of fluids/water
2. If you have a hard time eating daily meals, when you do eat try to eat foods that are higher in protein and or are nutritious (for example protein bars, kale, dark greens, avocados, apples, blueberries, bananas, etc) to stay healthy, and to avoid malnourishment
3. Try to not yourself compare yourself to others
4. Try saying three positive affirmations every day (for example “I am enough” “I am vaild” “I am strong” and “I am beautiful”
4. Remember that you are not alone, and if you ever need help or someone to talk to don’t hesitate to reach out to someone you can trust. (Therapy is highly recommended)
5. If you begin to feel light headed, hunger pains, etc please try to eat something (preferably something higher in protein and nutritious) even if it’s small
6. If your workouts are in the red zone try to not work out longer than recommended below to avoid possible injury
7. Remember that when it comes to losing weight it’s a lot more complicated then simply having a high metabolism, eating healthy, and working out. Everyone is different, everyone has different genes, and some people are genetically predisposed to have certain things
8. Write down a list containing at least 4 things you like about yourself when ever you feel upset or insecure
9. You don’t have to have a flat stomach to be beautiful. Having a uterus can make your stomach appear to not be as flat as it really is.
10. Make sure to get plenty of sleep
11. Do something positive that makes you happy at least once a day
12. When you get positive compliments write them down and read them when you are feeling upset or insecure
13. Everyday try to have at least one reasonable and realistic thing you want to do or achieve by the end of the day even if it’s small (For example, today I want to clean my room some)
14. Remember that eds and body dysmorphia isn’t a girl thing, anyone can experience and struggle with it. And experiencing it doesn’t make you any less valid in your gender identity
15. As tempting as it may be, try to limit your time on the scale as much as you can
16. If you make any changes to your appearance do it because that’s what YOU want, remember the only one that needs to approve of the way you look and the only one whose opinion matters is your own
17. Wear warm clothes to keep you from getting too cold
I just wanna say how happy I am in life right now. I’ve been in love and with my best friend for over a year now and he makes me laugh and smile everyday. He makes me feel like each day is so beyond worth it. I also have my cute puppo who just absolutely gives me the most love. I get to spoil her and love on her all the time. I have an amazing job that is a perfect learning experience while I am in college. I get to work with animals every single day, whether for my job, or my beautiful baby girl (my dog lol). I just want you guys to know this because it’s been a while. But I promise it’s been so long because good things were happening and are still happening. Speaking of, I gotta go get ready to meet my guy. We are gonna sleep under the stars until 3:31am when I officially turn 18.
Good things are happening. I didn’t expect it to, and then last year in September and October I got two things in my life that absolutely make every day worth waking up for. Good things are coming, this is for sure that sign :)
