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“She needed a hero so she became one.”

— Unknown

Strategies to break free when you feel yourself spiraling towards desaster!

Proving yourself

Should not be at the cost of prolonged unhappiness.

Not worth it- unless the cause and the leader is worth you, your failures and your inability.

You can use the same energy to be where you are accepted for who you are.

Rest doesn’t matter.

I came across this painting and couldn’t look away from it. Rene Magritte’s Not to Be Reproduced encourages us to look longer for a very important reason. It shows a man with his back to the viewer, standing in front of a mirror. On the ledge we see a copy of Edgar Allan Poe’s(my inspiration for Poetry) only novel The Narrative of Arthur Gordan Pimm of Nantucket. We cant help ourselves but to see a rather odd visual. Instead of man’s face being reflected as we would expect, the mirror shows the back of his head, while the book is reflected back in the mirror correctly. This obscurity strikes on the main theme of our ever changing perception. We assume what the mirror will reflect but we are denied the answer we expect. This theme becomes more prominent in today’s world where misinformation mends our perception by appealing to emotions and other storytelling measures. We take things at their face value(first impression is not the last impression for f**k sake) without ever questioning and interrogating things in the first place. The significance of Edgar’s book is that most of his work also deals with the perception of reality. Without getting too philosophical about nature of truth and falsehood, we like to think that our viewpoints about the world are backed up by the facts which we acquire through our timelines and newsfeed. Another major theme present in the painting maybe that of our own identity. The man looks with care into the mirror and wonders who he really might be. We lose our identity in this world where regulation of behaviour and pseudo interaction has become quite the norm. We are always hungry for praise, attention and worried about opposition and in this way lose much of our originality in thinking. We don’t have a secure hold on our values and judgements. This technique of hiding faces, is used by Magritte in many of his paintings like The Lovers, Son of Man and the Great War. This technique evokes confusion, unease and curiosity. Therefor i think, we should use these ordinary moments in our ordinary lives by cleaning up our conflicting inner selves.

Praise be to God

From the age of five I was instructed to take care of my Mum and Sister.

Why would anyone ask a child to take on such responsibility?

I wasn’t old enough to question the instruction, so did my best to adhere.

You see my Dad died when I was five, and at that time, my baby sister was barely one.

My Mum was constantly in and out of the hospital, managing an inherited red blood cell disorder.

I had no choice but to grow up, and do so fast.

Becoming responsible at such a young age was a gift and a curse.

I didn’t get a chance to enjoy my childhood, or my teenage years because I wasn’t considered a child.

Everyone who could, took advantage.

That being said, all my experiences prepared me for the many challenges I’ve been through and overcome.

I’ve always been wise beyond my years, and felt a sense of duty to care for my loved ones, before myself.

However, now I’ve established healthy boundaries.

I do things out of love not obligation.

I don’t allow anyone to emotionally abuse me or guilt trip me.

I don’t give anyone my hard earned money whenever they ask because they’ve been irresponsible with their finances.

I don’t allow anyone into my space if their energy isn’t right or aligned with mine.

I don’t wait for anyone’s appreciation, applause or approval, I don’t need it.

I don’t hold malice but where necessary I will keep my distance.

I don’t have any expectations so don’t get disappointed, just pleasantly surprised.

I’ve stop holding people to my standards, I know we are all different, and have different paths.

I’ve let go of all my hurt and anger

I’ve realeased all my past pain and embrace my present, while remaining optimistic about the future.

I love myself first

I prioritise my needs first and don’t apologise for doing so

I’m focused on my mental, physical and spiritual growth and that’s it.

I’m blessed and highly favoured

I let God guide my footsteps and walk confidently moving forward.

Praise be to God - Amen

Author - @iameriwa

⁣Photography - @xander.foto

⁣Model - @attrvcion

⁣Hair - @tossedtresses⁣

⁣Stylist - @talyseanir_ ⁣

Simone Biles

She didn’t quit

She didn’t give up

She didn’t cower

She did what we have been taught

Is the one thing

Magical Black Women

CAN NOT DO

Put ourselves first

Our health

Our bodies

Our minds

Our talent

Our desires

Our strength

Our beauty

Our genius

Our abilities to fly

To soar

To win

Are supposed to be laid at the feet

Of whiteness

Of this nation

Of this world

Offered up like a sacrifice

The rent we are expected to pay

To be seen as

Athlete

Entertainment

Disposable

But never whole

Worthy of protection

Worthy of peace

We are never supposed to

Get off the stage

Leave the competition

Demand solace

Without permission

Permission to be human

Permission to rest

Permission that is always

Denied

She did what

Black Women

are told

We can not do

She took her power

And walked away

She determined what was best

For her

For her soul

Her heart

Her life

We are watching

Learning

Following the trails blazed

Rest should not be a Revolution

But it is

And she is

And that is worth more than

Any medal or title

On earth

Self-care Queen - Simone Biles ❤️‍♀️

Author - @leslehonore (They replaced with She)

Model - @simonebiles

Photography credit - @sportsillustratedswimsource

Today marks the three year anniversary of this blog.

I started writing in August 2015 with the intention of writing one piece every day for 1000 days. This is what I posted three years ago before I began:

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- I am currently unemployed (by choice)
- I currently write for free for both The New LoFi  and my university newspaper, The Gauntlet. (albeit my first article for the latter will be published September 1)
- I have over three years experience as a festival correspondent, shooting photos and doing write-ups for seven festivals total thusfar. (All of this work was done for free)
- I am three semesters away from completing a BA in Sociology at the University of Calgary

The total amount of money I have made from journalism is: $100
Estimated cost of journalism so far: $6500

This looks pretty bleak, but the truth is that I really haven’t tried to make money in this industry. At least until now. My goal, by the end of this exercise, is to be a successful freelance journalist. What defines success? A number of things. But lets just set our sights on breaking even and paying rent.
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I think this requires a proper update.

- Since I began this blog, I have written over 400+ poems, short stories, and pieces of prose. I have been published in two magazines thusfar, and am currently archiving my work for larger publication

- I began writing a speculative fiction novel, a lengthy project I don’t expect to finish soon

- I completed my degree and earned a BA in Sociology with Distinction from the University of Calgary, taking multiple advanced photography courses in the latter stages of my degree

- I have shifted my focus away from writing in journalism to photography, with my work appearing internationally in CBC, Brooklyn Vegan, She Shreds, BeatRoute, Cross+Decay, and The F Word. Although I occasionally still write live music and film reviews. (I’m currently typing a pitch in another browser!)

- I joined the photography crew for both the Calgary Folk Festival and Sled Island, and have now photographed 30+ music festivals

- I am currently employed at the same establishment for 2 ½ years, but now earn roughly half my income with my own business as a creative photographer and artist.

- I was the artist in residence at two of Calgary’s most dynamic and up-and-coming businesses, Rosso Coffee Roasters and High Line Brewing, and have had my film work featured in two magazines (including a lengthy interview regarding my process) as well as the Emerging Photographer’s Showcase at the Exposure Photography Festival

- I held an art show and sold over $1000 of my own work

- I scored a short film and have begun compiling music equipment (I try to practice every other day)

- Perhaps most importantly I have made countless friends locally and internationally, all of whom inspire me on a daily basis. In the past three years I have visited Brazil, Mexico, Vancouver, Toronto, and Portland, where I met so many beautiful people who have shown me love and friendship

I’m my own worst critic, I’m sure anyone close to me can vouch for that. There are many days where I feel like I haven’t accomplished anything at all. I’m 28 years old, still working in the service industry, and am more financially precarious than I’ve ever been. I spend countless days lying on the couch, unable to cook food for myself and unable to function beyond scrolling through social media. My depression has been immobilizing many times throughout these three years, and I am constantly convincing and unconvincing myself that I’m accomplishing nothing.

But looking back on this exercise it would be impossible to say that I haven’t made significant progress redefining my life as a creative. My priorities have shifted, I’ve reallocated a lot of my energy, and I am more self-aware and assured than I have ever been. I am genuinely excited for what the future holds in the next 1000 days of my life.

So let’s get started again.

4 Reasons Why You Feel Empty

(According to Psych2Go)

1. You don’t know who you are
2. You have no meaningful relationships
3. You haven’t made peace with your past
4. You don’t have any dreams in your life

Foolish Wisdom

There was a time when I wrote down my thoughts more consistently and I kept track of my daily and weekly reflections.

Nowadays it feels like I have nothing new to say- and it kind of makes me feel like perhaps that is because there has been no new major developments in my life.

The piping hot steel from the forge has finally cooled, and it has solidified into a casted shape after many years in the flame.

Of course this is entirely untrue.

Yet somewhere along the way, it seems as though I had lost my voice- and the willingness to reflect, share, and discuss in great depth the contents of the new lessons I have learned in the past few years had been less of a priority than had been before.

Perhaps because a lot of what I have learned during the recent years had less to do with theories and abstract ideas from books or insights, and had more to do with things having to be learnt through the bitter taste of experience.

A good portion of my years from my late teens to my early 20’s had been about philosophical inquiry, and re-evaluation of belief, identity, and purpose through reflection- but it seems as though many things in life cannot simply be learned through insight- that life ultimately requires us to participate, and we do not have the luxury of time to wait for when our lives will really begin.

If there are some nuggets of wisdom I had hoped to share since the last time I wrote anything here, I guess it would be:

1) Question everything, but decide on something

2) Anything worth doing, is worth doing- even if done badly in the beginning

3) Do not let hate, jealousy, and conceit turn you bitter, resentful, and cruel

4) Life has a way of making everyone out to be fools… so

5) Find a way to understand people’s pain rather than judge them, to prevent your own further suffering

6) Learn to fail, so you do not fail to learn

7) Understand that whatever you define yourself to be, is most likely not what you actually are

8) The world doesn’t owe you a thing, so find ways to consistently be grateful that it is ever any good at all

9) Once we dispel our own illusions, we are all naked, vulnerable, and ignorant

10) What you resist will persist, and the thing you need is in the place you don’t want to look

11) Be careful to not take your own opinions and views about the world as fact

12) In a world filled with undeniable evil, pain, and suffering, ideals that reflect true compassion, love, and good-will towards others is never overrated

13) Do not let cynicism fool you as wisdom, however..

14) The fool is the precursor to the savior- learn to be a fool, for the fool can learn to be wise through his folly

15) Everything written here is incomplete, and is subject to change

19 Quotes That Got Me Through 2019

By the looks of all the memes on social media, 2019 grabbed all of us by our necks and gave us a good shake … and I, for one, really needed it!

If you follow me on InstagramorTwitter, you’ll know that 2019 has given me so much clarity with a multitude of life lessons for which I cannot even express how grateful I truly I am to have experienced this shift.

In the thick of it though, it…

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the best way to get things done is to simply begin ️✨

I have so many diaries from when I was in school. my favourite entry to this day was: dear diary, today I found out I need braces. NOOOOOOOOOOOOO. with my glasses too, I’ll look so ugly (oh young kristy).

yesterday I noticed that I was resisting to write. I was coming up with all these excuses and realised I was resisting because I didn’t want to be honest with myself. I didn’t want to write down the crappy feelings I had for the first day of the year. the new year is all about being fresh and optimistic and I was hungover and had a little bit of PPD (post party depression). but as I started to write it was therapeutic as it made me really think about why I was feeling what I was. it then led to me calling mitch and having such an honest conversation which left us both feeling really great and how to approach a similar situation. journaling allows you to explore, to have an honest conversation with yourself, and help figure out what really matters and is important to you.

journaling doesn’t have to be an elaborate thing. all you need is some pen and paper and a couple of sentences. for me I’m writing one thing I’m grateful for, my mood and try to unravel why, and in the calendar part and big highlights. the hardest part is just starting the habit but can you stack it on something else like when you’re having your morning coffee?

I found this post by @simplyfiercely helpful. she suggests asking yourself these questions : how do you feel right now? why do you feel that way? how do you want to feel? what can you do to feel that way?

www.simplyfiercely.com/start-journaling

It seems I am a little late, but still; happy new year! It’s going to be a good one ^^

-squid

Be a good person, but don’t waste time proving it.

Solid advice 10/10. I know you are a good person, and you’re doing everything you can. That’s good <3

Luctor et Emergo

-Selfcaresquid

It’s a misty day today… time for some self-reflection; tomorrow is a new moon in Scorpio, a new beginning!

How are you? Be honest with yourself, but don’t be harsh

Is there anything you can do to make things better? Remember that not everything is in your control

Scorpio means transformation, let the true you shine, you’re worth it <3 I got you

Luctor et Emergo

-Selfcaresquid

(And a happy belated Halloween/Samhain to those who celebrate!)