Sometimes I get really self conscious about still loving soft toys, making daisy chains, jumping over streams and getting really, really excited when I see ducklings.

And other times I think, fuck the people who made me feel like I can’t still enjoy those things. Being in touch with your inner child is not something to be ashamed of! <3

im evolving to the person u wanted me to be

lovinglylivingx:

Dont get caught up in aspiring this luxurious lifestyle that you rid yourself of wonderful memories because they are absent of lavish hotels or plans. Go backpacking in Europe with your best friends. Go to the beach and swim in the ocean even if you just washed your hair. How beautiful is it to allow your inner child complete freedom to simply play. Luxuries will always be there. As you deserve the finer things in life, you also deserve to feel completely liberated.

This is a healing journey,

there is always a wound, fear is wrapped even in the most shining smile. Your childhood can be an imprint of the main themes in your healing journey - this is a time when we can see deeper, when we’re wise enough to open for any experience and craving for teaching, no matter how harsh, horrible it can be, our soul is fresh with the memory of why we’re here.

So we’re ready to go - passed unnoticed to the adults, words and actions towards us as children can stay with us for years, mirroring in various difficult experiences.

Inner child

That’s all held in our inner child, the first sparkle of our personality free from conditioning by education, family, social groups etc., widely open for life and its experiences as they are, full of play, creative fire and ability to accept and give love. It’s the most clear imprint of our soul.

Trauma

Trauma shadows the inner child, making him\her retreat into the deeper parts of the psyche, he\she isn’t a warrior at all, so quietly slides inside, leaving vague memories.

When we approach the trauma - see it, starting to descend into it, slowly healing, the inner child is coming further.

Things that can bring the trauma into the light:

*** meditation and relaxation through any kind of technique that help your body and mind to open up and release stored energy of the wound,

*** setting intention that you’re ready to reveal your wounds and start healing can be a great deal, it’s a kind of signal you’re sending to your conscious mind at first and then letting this intention go, forgetting about it, you allow your unconsciousness connected with cosmos to start working on it,

*** focusing on the things that can point to your wounds:

• natal chart (look at Pluto, Chiron, Lilith)
• evaluating repeating negative patterns in your life, your blocks
• going to see your parents or staying with them for a while (the last thing is advised if you want no less but enlightenment)
• reflecting on the relationships with people closest to you,

*** trying to reconnect with your inner child - dance, sing, embrace your creativity and try to see how your inner child responds to that, eventually you can even write a letter to yourself as a child.

Healing

Healing is a slow process of opening up to the trauma, letting wounds to be revealed, accepted and healed. There is no specific time, pace, process to do that. It’s like letting the flower bloom, not trying to open up the petals, eventually ruining the natural process. That flower is your inner, truest teacher, eventually it makes us grow, teach us love, compassion, understanding, let our souls evolve.

Explore. Reframe. Embrace healthy conflict. Celebrate that value is in your effort, only that matters.

Four of Swords… l pulled today while walking in the forest. Standing in the forest from my childhood, surrounding the old country house of my parents, I can relate so much to the message of the card. I’m in my sanctuary, the place I used to play as a child, yet now it looks eerie, dark, abandoned as if telling a story of past storms and journeys that caused to leave the place of inner equilibrium. ******* I can see how constantly pushing too hard, failing to give ourselves time to connect back with our tranquil inner garden and check our compass, we come back there one day to see that it turned into mystical garden of storms and shadows and we need time to be able to discover here meditation, prayer, equilibrium and peace again and softly call for our soul. So we could heal ourselves after passed stressful, stormy, painful situations and come back to our core.

I let my hurt inner child do something bad and now I might be single

I’m realizing I’ve been depressed since I was a little kid and I thought it was just my personality but now I’m coming out of it and it’s like I’m getting the childhood I never got to have back

let-love-be-our-legacy:

When we know who we are, what we prefer, what we like + dislike, and the qualities we have, we’re less likely to lose ourselves in another person or make them a source of our love and our worth.

If you need help on:

• “Breaking up with” your fictional love or celebrity crush
• How to start feeling worthy of a person of their calibre and someone with their amazing qualities
• Why we love fictional characters - the emotional & psychological reasons
• What to do if you have repeating patterns of obsessions with fictional characters ( includes journaling prompts)

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3 signs you’re the cycle-breaker in your family:

“Healing your inner child” is the most powerful form of growth!

This idea may sound absurd to many. If you Google you’d come across as many articles as to what it is.

Simply put, it’s talking to your own self as you would talk to a child you met somewhere!

It’s just as simple as that. But the effects are profound.

I’ve suffered childhood neglect and separation. As a result I *was co-dependent in most of my relationships. I was determined (still I am) to become a better person and started working on healing my inner child. I felt change immediately!

Everyone should try it..

19 Quotes That Got Me Through 2019

By the looks of all the memes on social media, 2019 grabbed all of us by our necks and gave us a good shake … and I, for one, really needed it!

If you follow me on InstagramorTwitter, you’ll know that 2019 has given me so much clarity with a multitude of life lessons for which I cannot even express how grateful I truly I am to have experienced this shift.

In the thick of it though, it…

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“The greatest wound a child can receive is the rejection of his authentic self. When a parent cannot affirm his child’s feelings, needs, and desires, he rejects that child’s authentic self. Then, a false self must be set up. In order to believe he is loved, the wounded child behaves the way he thinks he is supposed to. This false self develops over the years and is reinforced by the family system’s needs and by culture. Gradually, the false self becomes who the person really thinks he is. He forgets that the false self is an adaptation, an act based on a script someone else wrote. It is impossible to be intimate if you have no sense of self. How can you share yourself with another if you do not really know who you are? How can anyone know you if you do not know who you really are?

One way a person builds a strong sense of self is by developing strong boundaries. Like the borders of a country, our physical boundaries protect our bodies and signal us when someone is too close or tries to touch us in an inappropriate way. Our sexual boundaries keep us safe and comfortable sexually. (People with weak sexual boundaries often have sex when they don’t really want to.) Our emotional boundaries tell us where our emotions end and another’s begin. They tell us when our feelings are about ourselves and when they are about others. We also have intellectual and spiritual boundaries, which determine our beliefs and our values. When a child is wounded through neglect or abuse, his boundaries are violated. This sets the child up for fears of being either abandoned or engulfed. When a person knows who he is, he doesn’t fear being engulfed. When he has a sense of self-value and self-confidence, he doesn’t fear being abandoned. Without strong boundaries, we cannot know where we end and others begin. We have trouble saying no and knowing what we want, which are crucial behaviors for establishing intimacy.”

Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw

6 year old me would cry if she knew there is nothing wrong with me.

8 year old me would be so proud i found friends who genuinely enjoy having me around.

10 year old me would love that i talk to my dad regularly now.

12 year old me would cry knowing that i found a man doesn’t hurt me.

14 year old me would lose her mind to know i was right about him being the one i would spend the rest of my life with.

16 year old me would be so proud that i fell in love with myself.

18 year old me would love that i’m doing well in school for the first time in my life.

20 year old me would lose her mind if she knew i had the courage to leave the relationship that made me lose who i am.

22 year old me is proud i’m still here, still trying, and can’t wait to see what the rest of my life will bring.

e.d// ode to my younger self

You know,
I never stopped looking for you

No wardrobe was spared
as I foraged through winter coats,
lion sweaters and shoes

Fighting wolves and white witches
walking home from school,
only to lose track of you in college
trying to be fucking cool,

indulging in those Turkish delights
I swore I would never do.

Still reaching for you,  

stumbling back to Narnia, 3 AM
punch drunk on playground booze

Jungle gym perched with nothing to lose,

Is c r e a m e d your name
across the sky!

Friends, jaw-dropped
shocked as I said my own;
told them not to worry,
“I’m only high.”

Took the long way back home alone,
midwinter blue and blurry-eyed;
followed a trail
of my favorite pair of jeans,
blankets, quilts, hoodies, and pine,

where I found you
carving our name into the floorboards,
eyes reaching out in kind

I asked you to scooch over,
poured tea for our stuffed animals
as we giggled in wardrobe light

Just two kids (one soul)
awake past our bedtime.

-inner child

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What does “fear of success” actually mean?

I’m about to be 23 years old, and i’ve seen people with money and people without money grow up. Here’s a couple differences i’ve picked up from (doesn’t apply to everyone)

Kids with more money typically had money in their youth. Mainly from having a job.

Kids without money were more likely do go home and do whatever tf they wanted with their time.

As adults those who grew up with money more than likely have more lavish (we not taking kim k lavish, just causal nice looking lives) lives today whether it be starting families, leasing cars, buying homes, ect ect.

Those who grew up without are still in a childish mindset, living at home, working a job just to have money to go out and do whatever they want, ect blahzay blahzay. ON THE FLIP SIDE these adults are also the most creative mother fers, starting businesses, working on their craft and passions everything. It’s amazing to see honestly. that being able to keep your childhood lead to more creative adults.

This still begs the question, what is a fear of success? I believe, and you take what resonates, that a fear of success comes from the experience of how difficult it was for your family to make enough money growing up. Some don’t fear success they fear unhappiness and know that their success will make them happy. To change the game for yourself would mean facing the unknown.

and we know how scary that shit is.

So now i ask myself, do i fear success, do i fear uncertainty, or do I fear failure?

In hindsight and for the future, maybe we need to find a balance. i’m choosing to live ✨LAVISH✨ and starting young would of been a nice jumpstart. Love that i’m who i am just wish i had a better idea of where i was going when i was younger. But where i’m heading wouldn’t have existed had i not gone through it all.

Who else’s inner voice feels like an undisciplined child that goes on and on about the same things that upsets it and you constantly have to scold to shut upandcalm down, but won’t listen and will keep doing what it wants so you give up…

Connecting to your inner child is a great way to bring curiosity, simple joy and innocence into your life. Here is a simple spell I like to do when things feel overwhelming and I forget who I used to be… 

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You will need

• Pen and paper
• A blue candle
• An object from your childhood

Inner child spell

⭐ Find a peaceful and quiet space to perform the spell. Light the blue candle. Blue is associated with happiness, laughter, innocence and childhood. 

⭐ Spend a few minutes looking at the object you brought - it could be anything ; a cuddly toy you used to love, letters from family members, jewellery you received as a child, etc. How does it make you feel? Can you remember the child you used to be? 

⭐ On the paper, make a list of things that made you happy as a child. What food did you like? What movie did you love so much that you watched it on repeat? What songs did you sing to yourself in your bedroom? What activity were you always up for? What book did you read under your covers at night, while pretending to sleep? 

⭐ Read through the list again. Highlight all the things you can still enjoy today.

⭐ Close your eyes and visualize yourself as a child. Send love, compassion and empathy towards this version of yourself. Make a promise to your inner child that you will not forget the things you used to love. 

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The way we as adults are turning to lgbtq+ content in children aimed shows because we were not offered much representation as a child just shows how important is to have in it media. There are a bunch of 20-30 something year olds watching she-ra and the owl house to heal our inner children and I think that beautiful

We’re taught to care more about appearances than how we feel and so we focus more on an illusion than what is real. We stay on the surface instead of going deep to heal.

-Samantha Camargo